“I’m bored. I’m restless. I can’t. I won’t. I’ll never. I’m way too shy. I’m way too nervous.”
If you’re stuck in that mindset right there, my friends, let it be a good indicator that those limiting beliefs are why you’re not not progressing in life. I’m no expert. All I’ve got is (almost) 40 years of life experience and my story to tell. That’s it. Those statements above, are all of the things I used to tell myself…even still do get caught believing it sometimes. I needed a real kick in the ass…and still do sometimes 😉 And no one was doing that for me. If you’re not at that point yet, let me tell you: No one is ever going to push you the way that you need to be pushed. No one except for YOU.
When we label ourselves with self limiting statements, and that’s the story we tell ourselves, then that’s the story that we’re going to live out. That’s where we’re going to set up camp….which is in the middle of nowhere. The place that we DON’T want to be. But as crappy as it is, we end up STAYING there. Guys! There could be a mansion just down the scary, winding road, and you’re sitting in your little leaky tent because you just don’t wanna do the hard stuff to get to the great stuff!
Let’s break it down.
The ONLY way we are ever going to grow is to get out of our COMFORT ZONE. I know you know this. I have a feeling this isn’t news to you. But I do have a feeling that you need this reminder to kick start something within you.
I challenge you to do something today that will get you out of your comfort zone. Even if that ‘something’ is only for the sole purpose of getting you out of your comfort zone. Even if the purpose of doing the hard thing is to prove to yourself that you’ve got what it takes to LIVE life and not just coast every day.
When we do things that get us out of our comfort zones, we become empowered. We start to believe in ourselves a little more.
So this picture below is a representation of doing something you DON’T feel like doing. I do not like snakes. As a matter of fact, I stepped on one when I was 11 years old. I didn’t just scream. I screamed and ran for the hills. At that point, I didn’t care if I ran so far that I got separated from my parents ending up lost forever. In that moment, my fear and longing for safety took precedence over anything else!
Fast forward years later….. I’m on the left, smiling. You see a smile. I think I look calm too. But what you don’t see is my heart pounding out of my chest. You don’t see the visions in my mind that I was having of that horrific snake head lashing forward and clenching it’s jaw around my face. Thankfully that never happened but those thoughts were definitely at the forefront of my mind!
But I freaking did it! I held the reptile that literally could have eaten me for lunch.
(For all the snake and creepy crawler lovers, picture something else in your mind that makes you wanna throw up when you think about doing it? (Public speaking, sky diving, think of something.)
Ok, now keep that image in your head. Could you envision stepping out of your comfort zone and just going for it? How do you think you’d feel if you did it? Would you not be proud of yourself? Would you not think “Hey, if I just did THAT, then I believe I can do ANYTHING!”
That, my friends is called growth and expansion. As humans, that is what we are meant to do. Grow and expand. Life throws curveballs. We sometimes do not get the choice to choose to do the hard things. They just come at us. But what if you had the choice today to do one thing you just really didn’t want to do? What is the worst thing that could happen?
- You might fail.
- You might sound weird.
- People might think your strange.
- You might find out that you’re not as ‘smart’ as you thought you were.
Why won’t you do it? What’s the worst that could happen?
Now flip that. What’s the BEST thing that could happen?
- You might gain confidence.
- You might find the job of your dreams.
- You might come upon an open door that you’ve been dreaming about walking though.
- You might find healing and purpose and joy.
Are you willing to start doing the hard things?
Much love, T:)